The Subtle difference between 'Find' and 'Earn' 

When we want to 'find' our ________ (motivation, respect, money- you fill in the blank).

We may be indicating that we have no idea where it is, it's lost, maybe it doesn't even exist!

It tags desperation, depression, helplessness.😒

When we want to 'earn' our ________ ( fill in the blank with all the goodies 😇). 

We're suggesting solutions and possibilities, that it does exist, we can get to it and it is ours.

Try tweaking your words.
Instead of saying, "I just need to find the  _______".
Say, "And now I will earn my ________".

See what difference that small self- talk does for you.
Let me know the results.


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